Overcoming Lovesickness – The 10 Best Tips Against Heartache
The end of a relationship can be a tough time for anyone, you may feel physically sick and it might seem like you’ll never be happy again. But there are some things you can do to help yourself deal with the agony of a broken heart.
1. Get Physical. Nothing gets the good chemicals flowing in your brain like exercise. Find an activity you enjoy and get out there, but make sure it really is fun. Not everyone is a runner or loves lifting weights, so maybe try a dance class if that’s your thing or go for a swim if you’re more of a water baby.
2. See your friends. When you’re heartbroken it’s really tempting to shut yourself in your room and wallow in the memory of that great weekend away with your ex, but that isn’t going to bring them back or make you feel better. Don’t ignore messages from your BFFs, they’ve been through heartache too and they understand how you feel. Invite them round, have a night in or a night out and forget your troubles for a while.
3. Create! A broken heart can make you feel worthless and as if you’ve failed as a human being, but how can you be worthless if you’ve knitted a scarf or written an epic poem. Channelling your emotions into a creative endeavour is also a great way to process them, so get out those paint brushes, tune that guitar and make something you can be proud of.
4. Think positive. It may seem as though the world has ended, but it can really help to remind yourself how lucky you are. Make a list of everything you’re grateful for and of the upsides to being single. You now have full control of what to watch on TV and no-one else will be hogging the duvet at night.
5. Take care of yourself. There’s a lot written online about self-care, some of it helpful and some of it no so much, but the trick is to find the tips that work for you and be gentle with yourself if you find some things aren’t for you. So if you really enjoy a bubble bath that’s great, but if you’re more of a hot chocolate and Netflix person that’s ok too.
6. Declutter. The end of a relationship if the perfect time to unleash your inner Marie Kondo. It may be too soon to throw away everything that reminds you of your ex, but at least put them away where you can’t see them every day. A general tidy up will also make you feel like you’re starting anew, and the world will look a little brighter if you’re not looking at it through a sea of junk.
7. Be mindful. There’s a whole host of apps out there that can help you with this one, but in general they’re all trying to help you to stay in the moment. Just a short amount of time each day spent not worrying about the future or looking back at the past can really help to lift your mood and help you think more clearly about what you’re going through.
8. Eat well. When the pain is still raw it’s perfectly ok to treat yourself to a pizza, but continuing with a poor diet is only going to make you feel worse. Green veg, nuts and seeds, all the foods you know are good for you will help to boost your mood. And don’t forget to drink plenty of water.
9. Get some sleep. This won’t solve all your problems, but there’s very little that doesn’t look just a tiny bit better after a good night’s sleep. Sleep is also essential for all aspects of your physical wellbeing so it’s important that you get enough. Make sure you have freshly washed sheets and your room is at the right temperature, listening to white noise can help if thoughts of your ex make you struggle to drop off.
10. Don’t rush yourself. The only thing that can really heal a broken heart is time and although it might seem that the pain is never ending, the reality is that every day you’re moving a little closer to the day when you’ll wake up and your first thought won’t be wondering what your ex is up to.